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Hayleigh is back with another guide on how to make the most of occasions in lockdown. This time it’s Valentine's!
lots of packets of love heart sweets


It’s that time of year again! that you either love Mostly we are told to love it, but to be honest, the majority of people I know tend to hate it – with a passion. That’s right, it’s Valentine’s Day! 

Obviously, this year is going to be vastly different. For one, restaurants won’t be able to charge ridiculous prices for a single rose whilst you eat overpriced fish and chips. So, this year, I suggest we have a rethink and a rebranding of Valentine’s Day. Instead of focusing on the idea of the one true romantic ideal, let’s celebrate love in all its various forms – family, friends, celebrity crushes, and ourselves (because why not?). We’ve all been through a lot the last year, it’s time for some stress relief and an excuse to celebrate. If hearts and flowers are your thing then great, you probably should have written this article instead of me, if not, then there are plenty of alternatives.

Valentine’s Day in the 18th century was not only reserved for your latest beau, but also provided an occasion for affectionate notes to be passed between friends. We are in a time loop, as back in the day, social distancing was very on trend. Writing letters was the only way to express our little heart’s desires! Jane Austen called this etiquette; we call it Covid.

Below is a list of ideas for you to try this Valentine’s. Whether you can get through all of the options or just a few, get in touch and let us know.

Lupercalia 2.0

Depending on who you believe, the origins of Valentine’s Day may date back to the ancient Roman festival. For this option, ignore the animal sacrifice and fertility rites, just concentrate on the tradition of picking a name at random and spending the day with whoever fate has decided. Pick a friend at random from your phone (or someone at Pathfinders) and send them a message. You never know what might happen. 

However, take it from someone who just received a message from a complete stranger which read, “Hey hot stuff”, this approach will get you nowhere. Especially with me!

Movie Crush Marathon

Everybody has a celebrity crush, so why not binge watch their movies? Perhaps indulge in a large box of chocolates and a cocktail or two (ask Jon or Mitch for recipes). Nobody is there to judge you for watching 10 hours of some Hollywood hottie or weird animated fantasy, so dive right in.

Zoom Chat/Quiz

We’re all familiar with the obligatory family Zoom sessions, so take the opportunity to spend a couple of hours with people you actually like. Family members might be included… Or you could accidentally forget to invite them. Contact some friends – fellow singles, loved up couples, or couples who used to be  – and try out a quiz on Myquiz.com. All is fair in love and war!

Flower Power

How about sending your significant other (or yourself) a bouquet of flowers? Except this year, instead of stealing roses from mother nature, you could make your own. Below is a short video of one of the many ways you can do just that. Go a step further and spray the flowers with your favourite perfume/deodorants to ensure your love thinks of you with every sniff.

Treasure Hunt

Perhaps you have already bought the love of your life a special gift – but nobody says they don’t have to work for it! Leave notes and clues around the house, that will finally bring them to that elusive treat. On one hand, it’s a great game, on the other, if you are fed up looking at your partner’s face, the hunt will distract them long enough to give you a break. 

Start Your Own Relationship Drama

For the past few months, I’ve been receiving weird and inappropriate messages from randomers on social media. Finally, I’d had enough and changed my relationship status to In A Relationship (fake news), in an attempt to deter such messages. What I didn’t know is that the info would appear on my timeline. To cut a long story short, my Facebook page has never been so popular. I also had a bit of explaining to do to friends, who very quickly messaged me for gossip. So, give it a go and change your status randomly throughout the day. One minute you are engaged, the next it’s complicated. Everyone loves a bit of drama. *Disclaimer* Pathfinders takes no responsibility for the family feuds that may result from this.

Valentine’s Events

Of course, this year groups / organisations are going online to deliver some Valentine’s entertainment. Below are a few links to some suggestions, however if these are not your thing, a quick Google search will give you plenty of options.

The Big Valentines Swing Night

Brought to you by the Southern Belles, this evening of swing dancing is for everyone. Tickets cost £10.

Worst. Date. Ever.

This one looks hilarious! Performers retell the antics of their worst forays in love. Complete with dating advice from agony aunts and audience polls. Tickets start at £3.

Valentine Virtual Speed Dating

The title says it all! If you are single and fancy giving love a try from the comfort of your own home, then this option could be for you. This event is for 25–45-year-olds, but other events are available. Tickets cost £11.37.

Love Spell

Here’s one for all the singles out there. If you are looking for love and have run out of ideas, then a love spell could be your next trick, though I take no responsibility for results! 

Love spells should be performed during the waxing moon and preferably on a Friday. Friday is named after Freya, the Norse Goddess of Love. It is important not to interfere with someone’s free will, as it can have consequences, so do not think of anyone in particular. 

Take a piece of paper and write (in pink or red ink if possible) all the qualities you would like in a partner. Stick to positive statements such as, sense of humour, and avoid negative ones such as, doesn’t have brown eyes, as this is exactly what you will attract. Fold the paper and write your name on the back. If possible, stick a rose petal inside the paper, or alternatively draw a heart around your name. Bury the paper in the garden and see what happens.

If it works, let me know!

Sponsor an Animal

It is a well-known fact that animals are better than humans. This year, instead of splurging on cards that will go in the bin or gifts that will sit at the back of the wardrobe, you could always sponsor an animal and be guaranteed a warm fuzzy feeling for life. Whatever your favourite wildlife companion – tiger, dolphin, or donkey, there is a new friend waiting for you.

Valentine’s Dinner

Let’s get back to the good old-fashioned basics and have dinner (for 2, 3, or 4, if that’s your thing). Many supermarkets and delivery services are offering great deals for Valentine’s night – just have a shop around. Alternatively, you and your partner could get creative in the kitchen and rustle up something special with some more exciting ingredients than usual.

So, there we have it, 10 options to get your Valentine’s Day going. Whether you are loved up or single, take the day to enjoy yourself and spread a little love.

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